tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4779259220257272689.post9203031009134525118..comments2023-06-24T04:22:28.276-04:00Comments on Go like water.: A Week.Stevenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03893392324561217969noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4779259220257272689.post-81179785688316371902010-06-23T19:17:36.320-04:002010-06-23T19:17:36.320-04:00Thank you for the kick in the pants, Liz. Most of ...Thank you for the kick in the pants, Liz. Most of what you say is right on.Stevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03893392324561217969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4779259220257272689.post-1380552831978407702010-06-23T12:36:59.581-04:002010-06-23T12:36:59.581-04:00OK, this is going to sound as if it comes from lef...OK, this is going to sound as if it comes from left field, because I'm not just offering consoling support, but maybe a slight kick in the pants...<br /><br />Instead of regretting the last 7 months, maybe you should look at this break-up and this relationship, as shaking you out of who and what you were and your perception of yourself, and putting you where you are now. A necessary journey.<br /><br />You love him because of his promise - he sounds a lot like your vision of your past self, who you think you were, who you want to be again. Maybe you were hoping he'd short-cut you back to that place, that person. Maybe that was too much to hope for and scared him off.<br /><br />I still think about the only man I ever truly gave my heart to - ten years after we broke up (the second time.) It doesn't sting as much now, but that "could have been" thought never truly leaves you. But I would never regret a moment we spent together, or the extremely painful moments I experienced afterward. That's what makes up love and life. <br /><br />You may think it was "easier" to have not opened your heart before, but that resistance probably took as much if not more, effort. Your tears today may be about the loss of that illusion as well as your love.<br /><br />You're an artist Steven. You will put some of this into your work. You already are through these heart-wrenching posts. It's weird and tragic that's how it works, but it's OK, too. <br /><br />I hope you can find a way to be back in each other's lives in some way, and that it doesn't hurt as much when you get there. That will probably take some time. And it may not be as much time as you'd like. But I was able to. It does happen.<br /><br />xoxoxo exoxoxohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11993751439653647136noreply@blogger.com